As the year 2015 begins to come to a close, I often find myself pondering upon the resolutions I wish to make for 2016. Each year, I tell myself "Maz, you will follow through and accomplish those resolutions this year" and every year I either forget what I resolved to do or I simply don't find it as important as I did before. I finally figured out why I stop finding it as important as we venture through the year, it happens because all the goals or at least 90% of them are very trivial and materialistic goals (and I keep forgetting to write them down!).
After reading an inspiring article on Elite Daily, I have decided that I'm going to make 12 New Year's resolutions that actually matter and help me grow into a better person in 2016.
1. Make yourself a priority. We tend neglect ourselves as we make the things around us our priorities, things such as work, friends, social events and pleasing others. At the end of the day, you are the one person you can't run away from, you wake up with yourself in the morning and go to sleep in your own skin every night. Love your flaws and find comfort in your own skin, strengthen your relationship with yourself by having the confidence to take yourself out for lunch, coffee or to a much needed spa treatment. Learn to understand that treating yourself isn't an act of selfishness, it's an act of love.
2. Instead of focusing on having that banging summer body that most girls dream of, focus on being healthy. Why beat yourself up for skipping the gym on days you have no time to spare? In saying that, it does not mean you are allowed a free "skip the gym" pass on the days you do have time to spare.
3. Travel, see the world! If you can't afford it, sign up for a charity organisation that lets you volunteer abroad. There are 100s of them all across the world, I'm sure something will cater to your interests, capabilities, expenses and needs.
4. I've had a fair amount of 'frenemies' over the years, along with a tendency to hold grudges which is definitely not a good thing. I have come to the realisation that each individual deserves reciprocity. Surround yourself with people who love and cherish you for who you are, because that makes you feel absolutely amazing and empowered! Choose to invest in relationships with people who push you to your limits and motivate you to be the best you can be, the people who create and inspire positivity in your life are those worth keeping. Letting go of those who don't isn't an easy task, it could take days, months or years to finally accept the fact that you have changed and moved on as an individual, however there will always be people to lift your spirits (whether it be with retail therapy, ice cream or a few drinks and cute boys)
5. Document meaningful experiences in your life, I love the idea of journal keeping but I can't seem to keep the habit of writing in it everyday so instead I have a journal and a box. In said box, I keep photos, tickets, receipts etc of all my cherished and memorable moments. I am considering scrapbooking 2016 for a change - let's hope I actually go through with it. Documenting precious moments is a way to inspire gratefulness and reflect on the moments and experiences in your life. Take my advice: try it for a year and at the end of the year, empty the box or flip through the journal or scrapbook and see how it makes you feel. I'd love to know if it makes you feel all fuzzy and warm on the inside with a hint of nostalgia - or maybe I'm the only one who feels like that?
6. Pay it forward. There are so many ways we can pay things forward without even realising it, if you work you could sponsor a child or animal. At the moment I am currently participating in a program runned by World Vision in which you give a one off or monthly monetary donation to help end child slavery and human trafficking. The money is used to build rescue homes and to care for the children in those homes therefore instead of helping one child, you are helping many! I also plan on sponsoring a lion through the Black Jaguar White Tiger Foundation as I think it is important that animals are treated with love and care as opposed to being trapped in run down zoos, circuses or used for hunting purposes. Other ways to pay it forward is through your actions such as buying clothing items from brand that do not condone child labour, being environmentally conscious and living a sustainable lifestyle. Your talents and words may also be used to pay it forward such as voicing out your opinion regarding the issues you are passionate about across social media platforms, telling your friends and gathering together to cook and feed the homeless. The list goes on!
7. Do not lock everything up. Embrace your emotions, yes that includes those crazy mood swings! Cry when you are sad and laugh when you are happy - there is no shame in feeling the way you do. Hit up your friends if you need someone to come over with ice cream for a cry session over everything and nothing at all, if they are really your friends then they will understand that sometimes you need someone there for you even on days nothing is wrong. We all need to feeling embarrassed or ashamed of our feelings, and just roll with the punches.
8. Start a new hobby by learning a new skill. There is always room to grow and better yourself as a person so why not start now? In 2016, I have decided to try my hand at calligraphy and lettering. It might get me nowhere but it also might get me somewhere, there is no harm in trying. What's the worst thing that could happen?
9. Support your local industries, buy your groceries from local farmer markets and your clothing from local brands, there are so many creatives out there to be discovered and if you fall in love with a brand, be sure to tell everyone you know about it!
10. Meet new people. Be that person, the one that walks around with the confidence to strike up conversations with strangers. There is an adrenalin rush when you do so, you never know how they will impact your life or who they are and what their experiences are until you say hello. It's hard building the confidence to do so, but it is definitely worth it once you do.
11. Go to sleep earlier so that you can start waking up earlier. Waking up at 6am every morning allows you to have some time to yourself. I plan on waking up in the morning and spending an hour away from all my technological devices. During this time, I can have a cup of tea, read a book and get ready for the day. It's a chance for me to discover more about myself and get to know me.
12. This is probably one of the most important things in this list. Create your personal mission statement. A statement outlining how you want to live your life, what you wish to accomplish and the person you aspire to be at the end of the year. Your statement should not be influenced by those around you but based on your beliefs and values. People, trends and the things around you are constantly changing but with the statement you have a firm set of beliefs and values to keep you grounded so that you never forget who you really are.
They always say life is short, but it's the longest thing you will ever know. So why not do things to better yourself and make you happy? Happiness is a state of mind, choose to be happy in 2016. If life hurls a thousand obstacles at you in the new year, conquer them and say "another one" because eventually there will be nothing you can't conquer.
Is there anything you'd like to add to the list? What're your resolutions for 2016?