2016 was the year I learnt a lot about not only myself but those that I surround myself with and how they affect me. A reflection of the year that has past is something that I do regret not doing at the start of 2016, but here I am now! Here's to looking back on a year filled with challenges and lessons.
No. 1 Friendship
I learnt a lot about friendship over the last year, mainly from the relationships I had and the effect some of those relationships had on me. I learnt a lot about what a good friendship entails, the kind of people I'd like to surround myself with and I learnt who to trust. I used to find letting go incredibly difficult but this year I learnt that it is OK to let go of friendships who have a toxic effect on you - even if they were once cherished. I also figured out who my "squad" was and I keep them close to me.
No. 2 Goal setting
Goal setting was something that I never had a passion for till this year, it started out early 2016 when I had a fair amount of things I wanted to achieve within that month so I wrote those things down in my planner. It was a good way to have it in writing so that I didn't have to stress over having to remember the things I wanted to achieve and the motivation that I got from crossing those things out once I achieved them was exhilarating. Monthly goal setting motivated me to get more things done and definitely helped me hustle harder every month!
No. 3 I compete with the person I was a year ago
No. 4 Be the friend you'd like to have
This was something that I believed in for a long time - I remember one of my friends Jesseline (@themakerjess) introduced me to the concept at camp when I was maybe 10 years old and it stuck with me ever since. Be the friend you'd like to have by treating others the way you'd like to be treated. It's a character that I never actively tried to portray unless I was faced with a friendship hurdle or when I was advising someone else. In 2016 I made the conscious effort to make sure that it was a mindset that I was actively living by and it definitely showed me which friendships I cherished more than others because they exude the same character.
No. 5 Hustle harder
No. 6 It doesn't happen to people like me
Some of the experiences I had this year were things that personally took me by surprise due to the mindset I had at the time. "It doesn't happen to people like me" was a mindset that I had on a subconscious level, so you can imagine the shock I was in when I underwent a couple of opportunities and experiences that I didn't think could happen to "people like me". Good things happen if you work hard enough for it and bad things can happen because no one is an exception. Anything can happen to anyone, and I was wrong for thinking things won't happen to people like me.
No. 7 Budgeting
No. 8 Treasure the important things
In this day and age, it's easy to focus on how big your following is, how much money you have, if you have the latest fashion pieces etc. I got quite caught up in it every once in a while during the first half of 2016, one of my friends managed to snap me out of it (so blessed to have great friends!) and ever since, I made sure to treasure what matters most to me including time with family and friends, a roof over my head and the freedom to have a hobby that I am extremely passionate about.
No. 9 Gratitude
No. 10 Pick yourself up
I was a big advocate for throwing yourself a self pity party with a good tub of ice cream for a couple of days until you are ready to face the world again. This year however I was hustling hard and when I hit one of the biggest setbacks, I realised that yes you can cry but instead of waiting till you feel better - PICK YOURSELF BACK UP.
No. 11 Don't forget your roots
It took me a while to figure out my beliefs and values, and in 2016 I finally managed to solidify what my beliefs were but once I did, sometimes it was easier to forget what I believed in especially when you're caught in a moment. In 2016, I found that daily reflections and writing down what I really believed in helped me stay true to myself.
I honestly had a pretty great year in 2016, despite the setbacks because as I look back now, it took those setbacks to develop so many of my characteristics and helped me become the person I am today. I am extremely excited to face whatever 2017 has to throw at me because I know that I will get through it and as will you. I wish you all the very best year ahead and I highly recommend you reflecting on the past year, you'd be surprised by how much you've learnt and grown over the past year!